SPFPP 296: Pleasure Identity

I talk about how sexual health is mental health because our sexual identity is interconnected with our actual identity. What about our pleasure-selves? What is our pleasure identity? Or is our sexuality exclusively wrapped up in that too? Kit (they/them), is a 26 year old hula-hooping, neurodivergent, queer, and poyamorous person living with herpes. Originally, Kit reached out with some positive shares they wanted to bring to the podcast. I recognize them for hula hooping on IG and somehow our conversation began speaking about how a herpes diagnosis changes our relationship not just with sex, but with pleasure. What people don’t often know is that sex can go beyond the feeling of orgasm from genital contact. Kit and I discuss some elements of kink and BDSM that give us the same things we seek through sex. Feeling and being connected to another person can still happen without genital contact.

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