Boundaries & FAQ
do not request a diagnosis or send in photos of your symptoms
The only way to know if you have an STD is to GET TESTED. There are resources available through this site that can direct you to free and affordable organizations that offer testing and treatment for an STI. If you do not see one in your area, please perform a web search for “STD testing near me” and seek medical assistance.
start with the spfpp podcast self-acceptance episode below
The episode titles and descriptions are designed to help you quickly find experiences and resources that resonate with where you are in your diagnosis if you are positive. If you have been disclosed to and you would like more resources on how to minimize risk of exposure to an STI, the Sex Positive resources directory is a great place to begin to find methods to reduce your risk of exposure via sexual contact.
Should I disclose my positive status to my partner if _______ ?
How do I disclose my positive status to a friend?
Try this exercise. Look yourself in the mirror or video record yourself saying “I have _____”. Explore the emotion that comes up. Understand that emotion and begin to understand your emotional response to that statement. When you can do this and maintain your composure, speak confidently about your positive status and you see things potentially becoming physical with a potential partner or if you just want to open up to a friend, this is a great starting point. The facts are plentiful about the STI you’re having your experience with. There’s a place for that. When it comes to this conversation with someone else, understand the only thing they may know is in relation to the stigma so you’re likely the first person they’ve heard “I have an STI” from. Be ready to educate.
Someone just told me they are STI Positive. What do i do now?
Congratulations! This means you’re a safe space to someone who trusts you enough to have shared a very intimate detail of their life with. First, thank you. You’re seeking more information to provide support and or make a more informed decision on how to move forward with a partner. It’s important that you understand you can take all the space you need and shouldn’t feel pressured into moving forward intimately until you’re ready. If a relative or friend shared their diagnosis with you, just continue to see them as you always have. That’s what we really want is to be seen as we were before we began to attach ourselves to the stigma of a positive diagnosis.
submit a question via the contact form if you don’t find what you’re looking for.
At the time of this going live, it’s just me. I don’t have all the right answers. I will kindly direct you to the most accurate resources available while SPFPP continues to expand and connect in this space with those who have the experience and expertise to help beyond what I’m able to provide.